Talking to Your Kids about Pride Month

Talking to Your Kids about Pride Month

Written by Andrea Crum

June 5, 2024

The most popular meme to be narrating Pride Month so far says, “Wishing all the homophobes a super uncomfortable month,” covered in rainbow hearts. Multiple friends on Facebook are already posting it. Perhaps you’ve seen it, too. It’s being met with a lot of “YES!” and laughing face emojis. Some by friends who I didn’t even realize celebrated pride.

The mocking tone of the meme is the most telling indicator of where we are headed in our LGBTQ+ conversations for the month of June.

Not only does Pride Month fill up our social feeds, and grocery store check-outs, but it also shows up in our kid’s online games, and cartoons, and many public libraries make a big to-do about it, too.

A couple of years ago, I was surprised to see a whole host of LGBTQ+ flags at an online store in a Roblox game one of my boys was playing. The shops in various games are also filled with pride collectibles to adorn their avatars.

Shane Pruitt, Next Gen Director for the North American Mission Board, posted that now over one-third of our national calendar is made up of days (121 to be exact) celebrating some part of the LGBTQ+ lifestyle. Here’s just a smattering of them…

  • Bisexual Health Awareness Month (March)
  • International Asexuality Day (April 6)
  • Nonbinary Parents Day (April 18)
  • Pansexual & Panromantic Visibility Day (May 24)
  • Queer Youth of Faith Day (June 30)
  • International Drag Day (July 16)
  • Gay Uncles Day (August 14)
  • International Pronouns Day (3rd Wed in October)

There was a time when Pride Month stuck out like a sore thumb, but now it’s starting to feel like part of the fabric of our world with a growing animosity between those who support it and those who don’t.

So, how to you go about talking to your kids about Pride Month? Here are four important points to address…

1. Explain God’s Good Plan for the Two Genders & For Sex

I’ve spoken to many parents who had to explain same-sex marriage before they ever explained that sex is between a husband and wife in marriage. That’s because our kids live in this world and no matter how much we try to protect them, even at an early age, they are exposed to seeing same-sex relationships in their neighborhoods, at the grocery store, or from their friend who has two dads. If you’re lucky, your kids will come ask you about it rather than just assume it’s normal. This is why talking to our kids about gender and sex needs to happen earlier than we previously felt comfortable with.

If we are the first ones to talk to our children on these topics, they are more likely to believe what we are sharing is truth. If they hear from the world first, they are more likely to believe the world. Why do you think so many LGBTQ+ advocates target young children? They are trying to have the conversation first because they know us conservative Christian parents aren’t.

When talking about gender and sex, I’m a big believer that we start by explaining the differences between male and female. This will provide a great foundation for the sex conversation that comes later.

One of the most crucial points to share with our children is that the differences between male and female are critical for reproduction. We would cease to exist as humankind without it because only a biological male and biological female can produce a child.

Males and females are different mentally, emotionally, physically, sexually, and spiritually. Here are some of the ways that you can share with your kids.

  • Mentally – Based on brain development, girls mature two to three years faster than boys. Men have more grey matter while women have more white matter, which is why women are better at multitasking and men are better at staying on task.
  • Emotionally – Female brains show higher activity levels in the limbic system, critical for bonding, nesting, and emotions, explaining why women are generally the primary caretakers of children.
  • Physically – Once puberty hits for males, they grow taller, weightier, and have more upper body strength. Testosterone is higher in men, which helps men build more muscle mass and burn fat more effectively, explaining why men are better protectors.
  • Sexually – Women have XX sex chromosomes, while men have XY sex chromosomes. Most importantly, males and females have different reproductive systems (testicles and sperm for men; ovaries, eggs, and a uterus for women) essential for the production of life.
  • Spiritually – Both men and women are made in the image of God, meaning we have equal value in the eyes of God, yet He designed us differently to complement each other. Biblical womanhood reinforces that God designed women with compassion, wisdom, conscientiousness, industriousness, and in service to others. Biblical manhood includes protection, provision, sacrificial love, and family leadership.

These facts are hard to refute and if we can teach our kids these differences, they will be more likely to dismiss the idea that boys can be girls and girls can be boys as irrational.

On the topic of sex, I’m a big fan of this pneumonic from Allie Beth Stuckey on explaining God’s design for sex between a man and a woman in marriage. Before sharing the mechanics of sex, you can lay a framework of what it is and why it matters to God.

  • Rooted in Creation for Reproduction (italics are my addition) – Genesis 1:27-28
  • Reiterated in Scripture – defines marriage as between one man and one woman in Genesis 2:24
  • Repeated by Jesus Himself in Matthew 19:4-5
  • Representative of Christ and the Church in Ephesians 5:22-33
  • Reflective of the Gospel – The gospel starts with the marriage of Adam and Eve in the garden and ends with the marriage of Christ and the Church.

Our Raising Christian Kids Toolkit and our Community webinars are additional resources that can continue to help with these conversations.

2. Share What Pride Month Is and Why You Don’t Support It

Pride Month is a dedicated month to push the LGBTQ+ belief system on everyone. This is a month where companies and people amp up their efforts to highlight the rainbow flag and drag shows, empathize with the cause, and chastise those who don’t agree, all in an effort to push that this is a good and moral way of living. The most effective way they do this is by integrating the rainbow flag everywhere so much so that we become desensitized to it.

The history of Pride Month is interesting. According to the NASCSP website, it all began “on June 28, 1969, when police raided the Stonewall Inn, a popular gay bar on Christopher Street in Greenwich Village, New York City. At this time, in every state but Illinois, acts of homosexuality were illegal and bars and restaurants that publicly served or had employees that identified as part of the LGBTQ+ community risked being shut down. During the raid police were met with retaliation from the patrons, staff members, and other members of the surrounding community. The uprising persisted until the early morning and police were forced to barricade themselves in the bar before things de-escalated.

One year later, the first Pride Week and Pride Parade took place on Christopher Street, organized by Brenda Howard, a bisexual activist and a group of others in New York. The parade amassed a crowd numbering into the thousands. Soon after, many other cities began having their own Pride parades. During his term, President Barack Obama declared the month of June LGBT Pride Month.”

Once you decide what to share with your child about Pride Month, explain that you base what is right and wrong on God’s Word and God is clear that He created male and female differently and that sex is between a man and woman in marriage. The attempt by culture to elevate LGBTQ+ is a purposeful effort to diminish the Word of God and what He has created and called GOOD. This is why we do not support Pride Month or the beliefs of the LGBTQ+ community.

3. Make a Plan with Your Child to Pray When You See It

My first reaction when I see a rainbow collection at some store is to say, “Ugh, there it is. I just hate that they do this.” The accompanying eye roll is pretty automatic. It’s like an uncontrollable tick. But I’m working on it.

The reality is if we are going to have any impact on society, then we have to teach our kids (and ourselves) to have compassion for a dark and dying world. One where kids have been victimized by this belief system and where some adults are even under the illusion that this idea is good for their kids and society.

Rather than roll our eyes, let’s teach our kids to pray for those under these beliefs.

Our family commitment this month is to pray when we see the rainbow flag –pray over the kids who may see the rainbow gear in the item shop on Roblox or Call of Duty, pray for the child exposed to Drag Queen Story Time at the library, pray for the LGBTQ+ identifying kid we see at the store or at church.

That’s where compassion and love for others who are made in the image of God will be rooted and established in our kids. They will know the truth, they will love their neighbors, and they will also know how to articulate the truth when God presents an opportunity for them to witness to those around them who are trapped in this belief system.

4. Teach Your Kids About the Good Christianity Has Had on Society

Last year, I saw this growing sentiment on social media to take back the rainbow as a way of representing God’s promise and essentially trying to change the narrative. One lady even proudly said she didn’t care what anyone thought (even if they thought she was part of the LGBTQ+ crowd), she wasn’t backing down and she was wearing her rainbow shirt regardless.

Another lady said, “I prefer my rainbows in the sky rather than on a t-shirt.”

I align with the latter position because we aren’t going to “take back” the rainbow. That ship has sailed. Maybe if we had coalesced twenty years ago, but not today.

Rather than dress our kids and ourselves up in rainbow garb as part of a silent protest, a more impactful option is to tell our kids stories of Christians who are doing great things for society. The cultural consensus is that Christians hate people who do not believe like them, so let’s educate our children on the facts and show them that’s not the case.

A couple of proof points are:

  • Adoption/Foster – Scripture tells the Christian to look after the orphans which is why Christians are still today the number one group that adopts and fosters. We are also doing the crucial work of the pro-life/anti-abortion movement, counseling women to choose life, and providing them medical support, as well as clothing, bottles, food, and diapers.
  • Donations – Christians are by and far the largest group of givers in our society. Those who regularly attend church, give 400% more than those who don’t because we are taught to love our neighbors and serve others.

Also, if you know of a Christian ministry or non-profit that is helping people in your community, highlight those efforts to your children. Teach them that while the world will tell them we are haters, we are to be the hands and feet of Jesus in this dark and dying world.

In short, to teach your kids about Pride Month…

  1. Explain the Biblical Worldview (i.e. God’s Design) for the Genders and for Sex.
  2. Share what Pride Month is and Why Your Family Doesn’t Support It.
  3. Teach Your Kids Compassion by Praying for People Struggling with Identity Issues.
  4. Teach Your Kids the Goodness of Christianity and its Impact on Society.

In all these things you are teaching your kids truth and love, and the goodness of God’s design while educating them on the world they are growing up in. The most effective way for them to discern truth and lies, is to know truth and to spot the lies.

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ABOUT ANDREA CRUM:
Andrea Crum, a biblical worldview, apologetics, and family discipleship leader, equips families with biblical truth for navigating today’s cultural chaos. As the author of Christ over Culture: Raising Christian Kids to Stand in a Postmodern World and a graduate of the Colson Center for Christian Worldview, Andrea provides parents with the insights and strategic tools they need to prepare their children to stand up, stand out, and stand apart as a Christ follower in a confused culture. A wife and mother of two, she beautifully combines her passion for the Word of God and the family by leading Genuine Family Ministries with her husband, Matt, and hosting the Raising Christian Kids Conference. Follow her on Instagram for parent equipping and family discipleship at @andreacrum7 and @genuinefamilyministries.

ABOUT GENUINE FAMILY MINISTRIES:
As the parents of two boys, Matt and Andrea Crum know firsthand the struggles parents experience navigating the cultural challenges being thrown our kids way. Equipping them with Biblical truth, teaching them God’s design, and guiding them through the treacherous identity and other culture conversations that are more and more prevalent these days can be overwhelming and exhausting. That’s why they founded Genuine Family Ministries. Through focused teachings and tools on the Biblical worldview, the anti-Biblical postmodern ideas that exist today, and how to discern between the two, Genuine Family Ministries is preparing the next generation of faith-filled believers to stand firm on their faith no matter what the culture throws their way.

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